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Mercy in short supply?

Mercy and forgiveness go hand in hand.
Speaker: David Taylor
Series: Hall of Mirrors
Date: 12th Jul, 2026
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Mercy in short supply?

MERCY: IN SHORT SUPPLY?

Jools Holland / Louise Marshall – Seven Acts of Mercy

1607 Painting by Caravaggio – depicts the seven acts of mercy. An angel at the centre top with an outstretched open hand depicts the transmitting of Grace. This emphasises that mercy is inspired by divine presence and flows through human action. We struggle on our own; we need God to enable us to show mercy and be forgiving.

MATTHEW 18 v 21 – 35 The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant.

This passage underlines what makes believers very different in the way in which we speak about or expose the sins, flaws and faults of others. Eph_2:10 for we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

10000 talents 1 talent = 20 years wages for a labourer. (Lifetime debt)

100 denarii 1 denarii = a day’s wage. 3.5 months wage.

Peter’s 7 becomes 77, in Judaism 3 times was sufficient to show a forgiving spirit, but not 4! So Peter with 7 thought he was doing well! True disciples of Jesus are to forgive without keeping count – 77.  This may echo and reverse Lamech’s boast of vengeance in GEN 4 v 24 “If Cain’s revenge is 7 fold (God) then Lamech’s is 77 fold (Lamech’s vengeful passion).

May I suggest that a person with a critical spirit loves to count, but a person filled with God’s Spirit enables a person to make forgiving a way of life?  (30) Forgiveness is the highest form of showing mercy!

Mercy, which is by nature undeserved, comes to those who receive it as a gift. It is also potentially transformative in nature. We have received undeserved mercy. The assumption that we will, in the light of that show mercy to the undeserving, is a reasonable one. God expects us to be reformed and reshaped by his wonderful gift.

In this story, mercy has no impact; it doesn’t reach the inner man! V35 “from your heart”

Mercy describes a divine attribute of God’s nature—He is “rich in mercy” (Ephesians 2:4), and His “mercy is great” (2 Samuel 24:14).  Mercy has so many different descriptions, that several Hebrew and Greek words are used to express the dimensions of its meaning, words like compassionlovingkindnessfavour, and steadfast love often appear in Bible translations to illustrate the idea of mercy. A brief biblical definition of mercy is “the gift of God’s undeserved kindness and compassion.”

On a human level, mercy is the benevolent or compassionate treatment of someone suffering or in need. Mercy is an attitude that moves us to act on behalf of those in need. On a divine level, mercy is the foundation of forgiveness expressed in God’s pardon of human sin. By His divine quality of mercy, God remains faithful to His covenant promises and His relationship with His people despite their unworthiness and faithlessness (Deuteronomy 30:1–6Romans 9:15–1623Ephesians 2:4–9)READ.

Mercy and grace are evident in the salvation that is available through Jesus Christ. We deserved judgment, but in Christ we receive mercy from God and are delivered from judgment. In Christ we receive eternal salvation, forgiveness of sins, and abundant life (John 10:10)—all gifts of grace. Our response to the mercy and grace of God should be acceptance and to humbly come and worship with thanksgiving. Hebrews 4:16 declares, “Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

Our hearts are changed. Forgive from the heart v 35.

We linger at the cross and we live in the light of the cross. We will do to others what has been done to us on the cross.

  1. Get our lives in order – PRAY - MT 5 v 7 forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Unforgiveness grieves the Holy Spirit. Psalm 40 v 12 “my iniquities have overtaken me, and I cannot see;” Sin blinds us to mercy. Unforgiveness grieves the Holy Spirit!
  2. See from the other person’s perspective – Luke 23 v 34 “Father forgive them for they know not what they do”
  3. Pause before responding – Luke 6 v 38 “give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you. You can be selfish in this!
  4. Have an attitude of gratitude – Matthew 5 v 7 “blessed are the merciful for they will receive mercy”. Whatever ‘they’ have done to you, it is nothing to what we have done to God. God hates ingratitude; the unmerciful servant was an ungrateful man. He didn’t appreciate what the king had done for him. “Do this in remembrance of me”
  5. Do not put a foot in the enemy camp. The enemy has no mercy or compassion. Ephesians 6 v 6 “not by way of eye service, as people pleasers, but as bondservants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart,” – a bond servant doesn’t have ‘rights.’ We demand our rights when we use words like ‘Justice’ and ‘Vindication’ and this can lead us to be open to an enemy attack (2 examples). “So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you,”

James 2 v 13 “mercy triumphs over judgement”

 

In 1940, when Winston Churchill became prime minister, he forgave his bitter opponents for the sake of the greater victory in WW2. “Of this I am quite sure, that if we open a quarrel between the past and the present, we shall find that we have lost the future”

 

The Cross of Jesus was a horrible miscarriage of justice. Never let it become an unappreciated norm in our lives.

We do not earn our forgiveness; Jesus achieved that for us on the cross. But your willingness to forgive is evidence that you have understood and received God’s forgiveness.

Forgiven people forgive. Show mercy!

Here I am humbled by Your Majesty
Covered by Your grace so free
Here I am knowing I'm a sinful man
Covered by the blood of the Lamb

Now I've found the greatest love of all is mine
Since You laid down Your life
The greatest sacrifice

Majesty, Majesty
Your grace has found me just as I am
Empty-handed but alive in Your hands

Here I am humbled by the love that You give
Forgiven so that I can forgive

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From Relational Mission a way of life by Mike Betts and a big nod to Ben Parish’s sermon preached at Lowestoft Community Church

What's your ideal family?

Constant togetherness, texting, emotional conversations over breakfast
Others – that would be horrific. hardly ever see them, but they are there if you need them.
Family tricky concept, lots of disappointments.
Can't dodge it.


Becoming a Christian, means becoming a part of God's family. No just a tick box on a response card

  • Romans 8:15 For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry “Abba Father!”
  • Gal 3:26 For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.
  • Matt 12:50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.
  • John 1:12 But to all who receive him, who believed in His name, he gave the right to become children of God.

Reborn

God is now our Father, Jesus our brother
Relationship with Jesus and the Father through the Holy Spirit becomes the dominant relationship that shapes all our other relationships.
Packer – how well someone understand Christianity – how they relate to God as Father

The church a place full of our spiritual brothers and sisters
Serve a father not a chief executive – J.John “I work for the family business, which is a global business. We have outlets in nearly every country of teh world. We have hospitals and hospices and homeless shelters. Orphanages, feeding programmes. We do marriage work, education, justice and reconciliation. Basically we look after people from birth to death and we deal with people in the area of behaviour modification.” Wow, what’s it called? The church.

Not perfect harmony automatically – battle for the mind and actions!

Natural family – see sibling rivalry and kids not getting on – often down to the level of security in the love of the parents. true spiritually too!

Put aside your experience and understanding of family and relate together as God says!

Church is family

Challenge – church is made of people from every tribe, tongue and nation.
World people join clubs with like minded people – e.g. the bowls club.
Church is different – with people you wouldn’t normally hang with from all sorts of ages, class, background, interest and politics – muddy potatoes!
Diverse people coming together because of Jesus.

Because we are so multi-cultural. We often talk of the power of the second family – which is especially powerful for those who are thousands of miles away from physical family.
In the OT Ruth who was from a pagan Moabite background joined herself to the people of God and specifically to Naomi’s family because of God and was loved, cared for as a widow and married Boaz – who is a picture of Jesus redeeming her. She gets to be not just part of God’s family, but part of his plan as she is in Jesus’ genealogy.
Multicultural church is family with brothers from another mother!

We have an enemy – satan who is an accuser and divisive.

Unlike the bowls club, our ultimate goal not to be the best social group – transform the world with the good news about Jesus.
Nothing in common except Jesus
John 13 – By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you love for one another

View of church – a family not an institution.

Not looking at the back of the head in front of you. family!
Fight consumerism. -choping and changing churches on a whim or likes and dislikes. E.g.choosing squash at a supermarket
What did you get out of it this morning? Rate it on the way home like a movie.
Leave and find another one if someone upsets you.

Not for our benefit – family playing a part in God's grand scheme to make disciples from every tribe and tongue!
Get stuck in too family life – because everyone counts.
All equal in Christ – different roles and responsibilities.

Wider Church family – extended family

Love your natural extended family? Don't answer that!
Too small a thing just to be a local family.
Rev 5:9

Vision of a bigger thing.
Gateway for the gospel to go to the nations.

Part of a wider family – relational mission

Came up with the name!
Paul two ingredients
i) deep long term relationships
ii) Shared commitment to mission

Illustrated by the Ephesian elders in Acts 20 travelled over to see Paul for the last time (Paul couldn’t come visit the church personally, but had sent delegates!)
See the closeness of the relationship in v38

Unbalance

Relationship – inward looking, barren and unfruitful
Mission – task oriented and driven
love our wider family that we are part of and I love that we embody relational mission in the local church. Challenge

Small group – new last term. We had longer icebreakers as we were building relationships, sharing deeper. Someone who hasn't stuck blurted “Can we get to the worship already?” – missing the point
Misunderstanding what worship is
Task oriented rather than a relational family.

Want “the smell of the New testament” as Goff Hope calls it
Dear friends on mission together.
Costly, painful. Requires work – resisting gossip, dealing with conflict well, loving Mr & Mrs Sandpaper.

Church as family. Easy? Sorted by Weds?

Try harder? I'll try to be more loving, less gossipy, less moaning.
No missing the point of the gospel!

We can't do it!
but there is one who walked on the earth already who was the perfect son, the perfect brother. Jesus.
Put our faith in Him.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR - ANDY MOYLE

Andy planted the Gateway Church in Sept 2007. He and Janet love to gather different nations together to grow in Christ while eating good food! He also helps to shape and serve a couple of Relational Mission's church plants in mainland Europe. Andy and Janet run regularly, largely to offset the hospitality eating! He also runs a popular WordPress plugin Church Admin