Why am I weeping randomly?

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Beene pondering overnight and posted the following on Facebook etc…

Jan and I have spoken to a few people the last couple of days who have been bursting into tears or randomly weeping and wondering why. Mostly these are people who don’t normally struggle too much with mental health. Here’s some thoughts to navigate how you are feeling in this weird season.

It is disorientating. The first few weeks may have felt a bit like a holiday – a complete change from the normal routine and instead of sunbathing, swimming in the pool and other normal holiday activities there was a flurry of spring cleaning and DIY that kept the mind occupied and the body doing something.

Now that we are hitting more than three weeks, it no longer feels like a holiday, the normal purpose of your life may have gone. Boredom and frustration are beginning to settle in and grief of what has been lost.

Most people thrive on a normal pattern, rhythm and routine of life. That has gone replaced for many by binge watching, too much social media and wearing PJs all day.

I have found these things helpful

Have a new normal routine for this season. Routines root us in the normality and motivate us. Have a consistent get up time (as different from your teens getting up at 1pm as possible!), prayer and bible reading, Borisercise and some other activities you plan in. Limit social media (I get the irony of reading this on a screen – I grew up in the 70s when a popular summer holiday TV show was “Why don’t you… turn off the TV and do something else instead!)

Find things to be thankful for – most of you know I’m a church leader. I just wrote a Bible reading note on King David who found things to be thankful for in a season of discouragement and disappointment. Why not grab a piece of paper and a pen and think of ten things to be thankful for today?

Ring someone up to encourage them. Lots of people are feeling isolated and lonely. A phone call to say “Hi, how you are doing?” will make their day. But it will make yours too – as you will be finding purpose in a season for many of purposelessness. We’ve ended up making meals and dropping them off on doorsteps of medics who have caught the virus in the frontlines. They have been blessed and it’s blessed us making a small difference in their lives.

When I was a kid someone told me JOY comes when you put Jesus first, Others second and Yourself last. Whether you are a believer or not (and why not!), putting others before yourself and helping gives a sense of purpose in a season of no normality.

Marinate on that

 

Andy Moyle